Most aging Americans say they wish they'd saved more money, or stayed closer to family. Many have regrets, but keeping those regrets in check is better for you.
Family therapist Julie Nise says you need to forgive yourself -- then, move on.
“Having a regret is another way of saying I'm having a pity party, and pity parties don't work for anybody,” Nise says. “Pity parties have only one outcome and that's to get sympathy. What you really want to get is perspective.”
Regrets can turn into depression, and depression can bring on physical problems for the aged population. A poll published this week found only one-in-six respondents said they had no regrets about the way they lived their lives.
Nise says you need to get past what you “didn’t do.”
“We need to learn the lessons that we were supposed to learn as the result of going through whatever those experiences were,” she says, “forgive ourselves, and then move on.”